Couples Webcam Basics

At iSpylive, we value couples! Many of our customers are looking for fun, engaging couples that they can watch have hot, steamy sex on camera, and your performance can be the ticket to earning money while you do what you enjoy (with the person you enjoy!). As fun as it is to have sex with your partner, the first and most important thing that you need to understand is that this is a sales job. Granted, it’s a sales job that gives you the unique opportunity to use your looks and skills to get people to pay the two of you to show them your sexual pleasure, but you need to keep in mind that you are selling a product, and that product is YOU.

We believe that your couples performances can be an asset as you advertise and develop an online following using your unique performer ID number to announce performance times and special events via social media and advertise your services in adult content media outlets. We know that there is an audience for every type of couple out there, and you might find that your performances open you up to new experiences and perhaps a whole new audience! Once you’ve developed a client base, you will want to continue to promote your webcam identity in order to increase your earning potential.

What we ask is that you behave in a professional manner. This means that you need start and end your cam sessions on time, and perform like a professional while on cam. The bottom line is that your professionalism is both essential to our reputation as a provider of quality webcam services and to your ability to increase your earning potential.

Starting out

There are many things you can do to create a successful couples webcam modeling career, but at the beginning you should focus on making sure you take the time to create an appealing profile on your webcam page so you attract attention.

Upload a variety of photos. Take pictures of yourselves posing in different outfits in a variety of poses from different angles. Tease your audience, but don’t include too many nude shots because you want to save the best view for your paying audience. You don’t need professional photos; you can use your computer camera to take pictures!

Set your schedule. Go into your profile and set your schedule, and then plan to stay online for several hours. For English speaking clients, the busiest viewing times are between 8pm-2am EST, and it can take up to 90 minutes for you to start to get busy once you’ve signed on to your webcam.

Use social media. Set up a Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook account that you can use to promote your webcam modeling. These social media outlets can be used to let people know when you’re online and help you attract viewers. Some of the most successful non-nude models have some of the most widely viewed social media pages and feeds, so make sure that once you’ve set yours up, you follow them!

Be on the same page. Couples need to make sure that before they start performing, they clearly define their limits so that there is no confusion on camera. If you won’t do something, make sure your partner knows.

Don’t get upset. Many viewers will try and bait you into getting upset by insulting one of you or demanding that one partner do something the other one won’t do. DO NOT let these people upset you. Instead, either tell them no once and refuse to respond again or, if you’re daring, try and convince them to join you in private chat for a session (you’ll find that most of them will back down fairly quickly). You’ll find that you’ll win more fans if you two maintain a positive, upbeat attitude.

Have fun! Webcam modeling is a job, but it’s a job that gives you the opportunity to perform on camera and interact with lots of new people. If you are having a good time chances are good that the people watching will enjoy watching you and want to see more of you!

Safety First

Every job has risks and this job is no exception. While the vast majority of customers are online to watch you perform and have no intention of causing you harm, it is better to be safe than sorry. Play it safe and follow a few simple rules.

Never give out your personal information. Do not give anyone your name, phone number or address, and be wary of clients who ask for your personal information. This means you need to pay attention to questions that clients ask so you don’t give them information that would allow them to locate or contact you. This also means that you need make sure your performance area is clear of anything that has personal information written on it or could give clients enough information to be able to find you. Remove all personal photos, certificates, memorabilia and correspondence from your work area before you turn on your camera.

Avoid using drugs and/or alcohol. They lower your inhibitions and cloud your judgment.

Never agree to meet a client in person. This is a job, not a dating service, so treat it as such and keep things professional.

Webcam Model Basics

Whether you’re a new model who needs to learn ropes or a seasoned professional who wants to improve her performances, we’ve pulled together some information designed to help you create an experience that has your clients begging for more!

At iSpylive we value our webcam models because they are a huge part of what makes this business successful. And while there are thousands of webcam models out there, a small percentage make the "big bucks' and become career online webcam models. What sets these models apart is not only their paycheck, but also their professionalism and their motivation to succeed in this business. They are motivated to put their makeup on, do their hair and get in front of the camera each day for 4-6 hours at a time with a smiling face and a good attitude.

The first and most important thing that you need to understand is that this is a sales job. Granted, it’s a sales job that gives you the unique opportunity to use your looks and skills to get people to pay for you to show them your sexual pleasure, but you need to keep in mind that you are selling a product, and that product is YOU!

We believe that your performances can be an asset as you advertise and develop an online following using your unique performer ID number to announce performance times and special events via social media and advertise your services in adult content media outlets. We know that there is an audience for every type of webcam model out there, and that with a little bit of effort on your part, you will find an audience who will pay you to perform. Once you’ve developed a client base, you will want to continue to promote your webcam identity in order to increase your earning potential.

What we ask is that you behave in a professional manner. This means that you need start and end your cam sessions on time, and perform like a professional while on cam. The bottom line is that your professionalism is both essential to our reputation as a provider of quality webcam services and to your ability to increase your earning potential.

Starting out

Upload a variety of photos. Take pictures of yourself posing in different outfits from different angles. Tease your audience, but don’t include any nude shots (even if you take clothing off in private chat). You don’t need professional photos; you can use your computer camera to take pictures!

Set your schedule. Go into your profile and set your schedule, and then plan to stay online for several hours. For English speaking clients, the busiest viewing times are between 8pm-2am EST, and it can take up to 90 minutes for you to start to get busy once you’ve signed on to your webcam.

Use social media. Set up a Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook account that you can use to promote your webcam modeling. These social media outlets can be used to let people know when you’re online and help you attract viewers. Some of the most successful non-nude models have some of the most widely viewed social media pages and feeds, so make sure that once you’ve set yours up, you follow them!

Have fun! Webcam modeling is a job, but it’s a job that gives you the opportunity to perform on camera and interact with lots of new people. If you are having a good time chances are good that the people watching will enjoy watching you and want to see more of you!

Safety First

Every job has risks and this job is no exception. While the vast majority of customers are online to watch you perform and have no intention of causing you harm, it is better to be safe than sorry. Play it safe and follow a few simple rules.

Never give out your personal information. Do not give anyone your name, phone number or address, and be wary of clients who ask for your personal information. This means you need to pay attention to questions that clients ask so you don’t give them information that would allow them to locate or contact you. This also means that you need make sure your performance area is clear of anything that has personal information written on it or could give clients enough information to be able to find you. Remove all personal photos, certificates, memorabilia and correspondence from your work area before you turn on your camera.

Avoid using drugs and/or alcohol. They lower your inhibitions and cloud your judgment.

Never agree to meet a client in person. This is a job, not a dating service, so treat it as such and keep things professional.

Non-Nude Models

At iSpylive, we value non-nude models! Contrary to popular belief, non-nude models are some of the highest paid models in the industry! Many clients are looking for someone they can talk to, but they aren’t comfortable with the explicit content of other webcam rooms or their fantasies and desires don’t include nudity. Your job is to be sexy, flirty, erotic and seductive, without having to take your clothes off.

Non-nude webcam modeling is a sales job just like other webcam models, but it’s a sales job that gives you the unique opportunity to use your looks, skills and talents to get people to pay for you to perform, but you need to keep in mind that you are selling a product, and that product is YOU! Here at iSpylive, you have the opportunity to use your unique skills and talents to build a loyal following of webcam fans that will pay to see YOU.

Often times, non-nude models have entertainment industry related careers (singing, dancing, acting) and use their webcam time as a way to test out new performances for a paying audience. Some models practice dance routines in various costumes, while some target a more specific audience with their interest in fetish fantasies and clothing. We know of one non-nude model who uses her webcam time to test out new outfits for her fetish play, and another who fulfills fantasies by asking for client requests for each session.

Many non-nude models have an enormously loyal following on the web as a result of their policy of never taking their clothes off on camera. Many other non-nude models have a strict policy of only removing clothing in private chat. We leave the choice up to you.

We believe that your non-nude performances can be an asset as you advertise and develop an online following using your unique performer ID number to announce performance times and special events via social media and advertise your services in adult content media outlets. We know that there is an audience for every type of non-nude model out there, and perhaps your performances will open up the door for a whole new audience! Once you’ve developed a client base, you will want to continue to promote your webcam identity in order to increase your earning potential.

What we ask is that you behave in a professional manner. This means that you need start and end your cam sessions on time, and perform like a professional while on cam. The bottom line is that your professionalism is both essential to our reputation as a provider of quality webcam services and to your ability to increase your earning potential.

Starting out

There are many things you can do to create a successful non-nude webcam modeling career, but at the beginning you should focus on making sure you take the time to create an appealing profile on your webcam page so you attract attention.

Upload a variety of photos. Take pictures of yourself posing in different outfits from different angles. Tease your audience, but don’t include any nude shots (even if you take clothing off in private chat). You don’t need professional photos; you can use your computer camera to take pictures!

Set your schedule. Go into your profile and set your schedule, and then plan to stay online for several hours. For English speaking clients, the busiest viewing times are between 8pm-2am EST, and it can take up to 90 minutes for you to start to get busy once you’ve signed on to your webcam.

Use social media. Set up a Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook account that you can use to promote your webcam modeling. These social media outlets can be used to let people know when you’re online and help you attract viewers. Some of the most successful non-nude models have some of the most widely viewed social media pages and feeds, so make sure that once you’ve set yours up, you follow them!

Have fun! Webcam modeling is a job, but it’s a job that gives you the opportunity to perform on camera and interact with lots of new people. If you are having a good time chances are good that the people watching will enjoy watching you and want to see more of you!

Safety First

Every job has risks and this job is no exception. While the vast majority of customers are online to watch you perform and have no intention of causing you harm, it is better to be safe than sorry. Play it safe and follow a few simple rules.

Never give out your personal information. Do not give anyone your name, phone number or address, and be wary of clients who ask for your personal information. This means you need to pay attention to questions that clients ask so you don’t give them information that would allow them to locate or contact you. This also means that you need make sure your performance area is clear of anything that has personal information written on it or could give clients enough information to be able to find you. Remove all personal photos, certificates, memorabilia and correspondence from your work area before you turn on your camera.

Avoid using drugs and/or alcohol. They lower your inhibitions and cloud your judgment.

Never agree to meet a client in person. This is a job, not a dating service, so treat it as such and keep things professional.

Preparation

One of the most important parts of your performance is your performance space. An attractive, well-lit space where you can be easily seen from your cam, can help you maximize your earning potential!

Your Space

Make sure that there is a contrast in color between the wall and the surface you’ll perform on. A white wall and a white bed cover are sterile rather than sexy and a dark wall and dark cover can make it difficult to see what you’re doing. If you’ve got a light wall, use a darker bed cover and if you’ve got dark walls, use a lighter bed cover.

Remove all distractions from the space. You should never be interrupted by children, pets, phone calls or other people (unless they’re performing with you) when you are on camera!

Have everything you need. Before you begin your webcam session, make sure that you have everything you’ll need within reach (toys, wardrobe changes, something to drink) so that you do not leave your screen empty while you go get something. Empty webcam screens do not attract or keep customers.

Remove personal information. Before you begin your session, you should remove all personal information (pictures, calendars, or anything that would allow a viewer to figure out where you live) from the camera area and make sure any client notes or reminders are out of view.

Lighting

The correct lighting is very important, so you will need at least two sources of light or one very bright overhead light.

One direct source of light should be either an overhead source or a household lamp (remove the lampshade) with a bulb bright enough to illuminate the entire room. This lamp should be at the same height as your camera and placed approximately 1-2 feet away from it. The second source should be a lamp with a 100-watt bulb placed directly behind your camera.

Do not place a lighting source behind you as it will cast shadows and make it difficult for your audience to see what you are doing.

Camera

Make sure you have checked the angle and scope of your camera before you open your chat. You should be able to seamlessly move from chatting to performing without have to adjust the camera.

Try taking a few test shots of your area to see the view that your clients will have, and use a point of reference (like a small mark on the wall or a pushpin) to help you align your camera for each session.

Music

If you play music while you are on camera, make sure the music is turned low enough for your clients to hear you.

Make sure your choice of music fits the mood you are trying to create, and make sure you have enough of it loaded on your play list to last throughout your entire session.

Try to avoid using well-known streaming programs, as there is nothing that will kill the mood faster than a commercial announcement in the middle of a private session.

Understanding the Customer

As a webcam model, your job is to understand what the customer wants, and then give it to them! These tips for understanding your customer will help you maximize your earning potential by identifying the most common things customers do and don’t want from models.

What They Want

Customers come to your chat room looking for entertainment. They want to escape the world they live in and feel all of the things they don’t feel in their day-to-day life. It is your job to fulfill their fantasies. You are the fantasy that never says no, so make it a habit of saying yes as often as possible, and when you can’t say yes to one thing, find something else you can say yes to!

Clients also want a reason to say yes to parting with their hard earned money to see you perform. Make it easy for them to do this by being friendly, warm, welcoming, flirty, sexy, and attentive, and you will find yourselves constantly in demand.

What They Don’t Want

Clients are visiting webcam sites to escape their problems, not to be forced to listen to yours. Do not use your webcam chat room as a place complain about your problems or otherwise burden your clients with all that is wrong with your life.

If you are a couple, DO NOT belittle or insult each other (unless that’s your kink) or fight on screen. Not only do you turn clients off, you also risk creating a situation in which a client wants to “rescue” one of you. Save the drama for when you are off screen.

Clients do not want to be badgered, bullied or guilted into paying for services. They want to be enticed, enchanted and seduced into a fantasy that leaves them no other option but to do whatever they have to in order to be alone with you.

Personal Attention

Paying attention to details makes all the difference when it comes to creating a loyal client following and maximizing your earning potential. Customers want to feel valued, so when you take the time to do that, they will most certainly reward you by paying to see you perform!

Use names. Always remember to use your customers' names as much as possible when talking to them, as it will make them feel like you know them. Clients are much more likely to purchase private sessions if they feel like you “know” them and they “know” you.

Remember details. After you finish a private chat, take a few moments to write down the client’s name and their preferences. This will make it easier for you to remember their individual likes when they return, and it will make them feel special that you remember.

Use details. Remembering your good client’s names, personal information, and preferences, and referring to them in flirty ways in free chat sessions (never embarrass them or divulge something they have told you is private) is a good way to show potential new clients how you will treat them.

Stroke egos. You might say something like, “So [insert name], I’ve been waiting for you to come back and teach me another naughty lesson! I’m getting wet just thinking about what you might do with me this time!” This serves two purposes, it strokes the client’s ego while encouraging them to purchase another private session, and it show potential clients that your private sessions are something worth paying for!

Live Chat Tips

Learning to use live chat as an opportunity to sell private sessions is a skill that takes some practice. However, if you use the following tips to manage your live chat room, you can be turning free chat into paid private sessions in no time!

Your Chat Room

Be in on screen when your camera is on. Empty webcam screens are the quickest way to loose potential clients!

You are going to spend a lot of time hanging out in your chat room. Make sure that when you are in your webcam session, you are paying attention to the screen. If customers click on your room and find that you don’t interact with them, they’ll leave.

Make your cam room a fun place to visit! The more traffic you have, the more likely you are to have customers who want to go private with you, so make it your mission to make your room someplace sexy and enticing.

Free Chat

Free chat is the way to draw in potential clients and entice them into private chats. Talk with customers, get to know them, let them get to know you, but remember that free chat does not earn money!

You should use free chat to tease potential clients, but not give anything away for free. If you destroy the mystery in free chat, you will find you have few clients willing to join you in private.

Free chat should be friendly, but should also have the goal of selling private shows, so be engaging, flirty and sexy as a way to sell your private talents, but always be aiming to get viewers into a private session.

Working the Room

As you begin to attract more clients to your chat room, you’ll need to be able to manage a group effectively in order to identify the ones who are likely to choose to join you in private chat

Chat with everyone in the room. Don’t focus your attention on one or two clients. Treat your chat room like a big cocktail party and circulate! You may want to turn on your microphone rather than try to type when the room gets busy.

Use the "flirt, and divert" approach. First, flirt a little to get them interested, and then start working the chat room. This is a real balancing act because if you don't give them something, they'll move on, yet the more attention you give them, the happier they are not buying a private show.

There are some who recommend playing your chat room clients off one another in an attempt to get them to compete for your attention. If you choose to do this, be forewarned that it can backfire by making your chat room an unpleasant place to visit.

Selling the Private Room

Buyers v. Lookers

The first rule is that you should never assume you know who will or won’t go to private chat – until you know. A general sales rule is that 80% of business is done by 20% of clients, but you don’t know who that 20% will be until you engage 100% of your audience. Clients over 30 are more likely to move to private chat than clients who are 18 to 20, but don’t assume this is true for all clients.

Don’t ignore the lurkers. Often times the quiet clients are the ones who are most likely to move to private chat because they don’t want to compete with the other clients in order to have your undivided attention. Encourage the quiet ones to join the conversation by saying something like, “Hey, don’t be shy! Come on all you non-chatters, join the party!”

Entice your chat audience to move to private chat by saying things like:

  • I’m so horny right now, I think I could cum in 2 minutes! Is there anybody up for the task?
  • I’ve been dreaming about sex all night long and I desperately need help making myself cum!
  • I haven't cum once today. Who wants to give me my first orgasm?
  • My pussy is so hot and wet, and I need someone to help me satisfy it!
  • I haven't cum in like five days. Someone help me! I'm going crazy!
  • I've been such a bad girl today, all I can think about is getting naked and making myself cum. Is there anybody who wants to make a bad girl feel good?

Once you get a feel for who is most likely to move to private chat, you can begin to focus more attention on them, but don’t exclude everyone else. Use the potential private session as a way to entice others to also go private. Your attention and your pleasure should be used as rewards for good behavior!

Turning Requests into Sessions

Know and respect your limits. If you are not comfortable doing anal, don’t promise to do it in a private session. If you oversell and don’t follow through, your clients will feel cheated and will be unlikely to return.

There are ways to turn your limits into opportunities for private sessions by controlling the language of the request. There may be things you are haven’t done, but are willing to try. Uses creatively use those things to answer all questions with positive responses. There are many ways to say "yes" even when your REAL answer is no.

  • Customer: "Do you do anal in private chat?" (what to say if you don't, but are willing to try)
    Model: "I'm an anal virgin, will you go slow with me in a private show if I try for you?"
  • Customer: "Do you fist in private chat?" (what to say if you don't, but are willing to try)
    Model: "I can try for you, so far I can only do three fingers, but I know I'll turn you on no matter what."
  • Customer: "Do you do girl on girl or couples shows?" (what to say if you don't, but are willing to try)
    Model: "I do, but I have to know you really well first before I ask my girlfriend or boyfriend to come over. I'd really like it if you get to know me first."
  • Customer: "Do you do double penetration in private shows?" (what to say if you don't, but are willing to try)
    Model: "I've never done it, can you go slow with me and come teach me in my private room?
  • Customer: "Do you have toys?"
    Model: "I have a few, but I'm going to buy some more toys soon. Do you want to cum in my private room and be the one to suggest what kind of toys I should get?"
  • Customer: "Do you do phone shows?"
    Model: "I prefer having you watch me with both my hands free so that we can really have some fun!"

Be seductively honest, but don’t ever promise to try and do something you absolutely know you won’t do.

Embellish the truth, but don’t outright lie.

Learn to use free chat as the gateway to your private sessions and you’ll be making the “big bucks” in no time!

Dealing with Troublemakers

Every room has the one or two clients who act up in order to get your attention. Do not allow these people to divert your focus from the rest of the room. Instead, use the following tips to turn their bad behavior into an opportunity!

Maintain your game face. You only get once chance to make a first impression, and chances are good that other clients are watching how you respond to the bad kids.

Let the troublemaker know that it’s all about fun in your chat room, and then move on and reward the clients who are behaving the way you like with your attention. If the troublemaker begins behaving, then reward them with your attention, but if they continue to cause problems you may need to take action to calmly eliminate them from your chat room.

Keep in mind that some troublemakers have domination fetishes, so they’ll try to make you angry in order to get a free show. Use their fetish to get them to move to a private chat where you can give them their full force fantasy!

If handled well, you can turn a troublemaker’s actions into an opportunity to attract more clients by showing them that you are calm, confidant and committed to having fun.

As a webcam performer, you should always try to use your talent and ability to convert a rude or hostile visitor into a paying customer who is just dying to see you in a private show. Abusive customers are immature, ill-mannered people who can be redirected (most of the time) with some creative thinking. While your first impulse may be to kick troublemakers out of your chat room, first try the following technique.

A customer comes into your chat room and types in all caps shouting "SHOW ME PUSSY BITCH!" If you respond with, "Wow, you're so demanding, I like that! Where are you from, (customer name)?" you will catch them off-guard and often times be able to redirect the conversation by taking control. It is the very last thing they expect to hear from you, and often times turns the demand into a civil conversation.

Other quick quips and conversation redirects you can use on demanding customers are:

  • Oh my, I love dominance! You must tell me where you went to school to learn that!
  • Mmmm, you’re someone who likes to be in control, I’ll bet you have a really interesting job!
  • Now here’s someone who knows what they want! Do you want to take me private and tell me what you want me to do?
  • Wow, that’s some demand you’re making! I’ll bet you could give [insert famous demanding person’s name] a run for their money!


It is much more productive (and profitable) to respond this way than by taking a negative approach and kicking hostile people out of your room. At times it may not be easy, but try to always maintain your composure, and be positive and happy on camera. It will pay off for you in the long run because other clients will witness and appreciate your calm, confident approach, and you’ll make more money having fun than you will policing your chat room.

A note to couples: It is absolutely essential that neither of you loose your cool on cam. If your audience sees you getting angry and/or becoming protective or jealous in free chat, they won’t trust you to keep your cool in private sessions. Be aware that there are many people whose main goal is to push your buttons until you lose your composure, and that if you give in to them; you’re hurting your own webcam business.

Preparation

Environment

You should make sure your environment is set up in a way that makes it easy for you to chat with clients. Eliminate distractions by choosing a quiet place to accept calls and focus your attention on your caller. This is very important because in order to provide your client with the service they are paying for, you need to listen to what they are saying and respond calmly and confidently.

You will also want to make sure you have something to drink available, since you’ll be doing a lot of talking. You might also want to make sure your computer or mobile device is handy because it will provide you with a wealth of information to help fuel the conversation.

Attitude

You need to make sure you are ready to play the part of the fantasy girl for your client. If you need to be dressed in sexy lingerie, have toys handy or soak in a hot bath full of bubbles in order to play the part, then do it. If you believe what you are doing, then your client will, too.

Voice

The client can’t see you; only hear you, so your voice is the tool that you will use to shape the fantasy. Your voice needs to convince the client that you want to have sex with them as much as they want to have sex with you.

Your tone should be sultry and suggestive, so try lowering your register and speaking more slowly than usual. If you need to drink a glass of wine or sip some whiskey to loosen up your voice, make sure that you don’t overindulge. Sultry is sexy, slurred is a turn off.

Flirting

When you answer a call, begin by asking the client’s name, write it down, and then use it throughout the call. Ask them about their careers, hobbies, travel plans, and other interests so you can shape the fantasy to reflect their interests. Many clients won’t know what kind of fantasy they want, so your flirty chit-chat will not only make the connection more personal, it will also help you shape the experience. While some operators go with the flow, others choose to write out some starter questions and create an outline for themselves.

Some good starter questions are:

  • What do you do for fun?
  • What are your plans for today/this evenings/the weekend?
  • Where are you? Home, work, school, car?


STROKE THE EGO! As you learn about the client, you can flirt and get the conversation moving toward the fantasy by stroking their ego. When used properly, these kinds of compliments will not only show a client how they turn you on, it will also create a lasting impression – and get them wanting to call you again.

For example, you might ask the client if he’s shaved that day, and when he responds you sigh and say “Oh John, you clean shaven guys (or guys who wear scruff) cause me all kinds of problems!” When the client asks what kind of problems, you can laugh and reply, “You’re the reason I have to keep a dry pair of panties in my purse!”

Phrases you can use to stroke his ego

  • John, I can tell you’re a man who is daring and adventurous, and I find that incredibly exciting/arousing/hot!
  • I love the way your voice sounds, John. It’s so deep and masculine, and I find it exciting/arousing/hot!
  • I’ll bet you have women lining up at your door, John! You are so sexy and you really know how to turn a woman on!



If your client is a female, find out her hair color or what type of job she does and say something like, “Oh Jill, you redheaded sales managers cause me all kinds of problems!” And when she asks what kinds of problems, if you’re female you can respond with the panty line (see above) or, if you’re a male model, you could say, “You ladies get me so turned on, I can’t leave my desk!”

Foreplay

Once you’ve figured out what your client wants, you can start setting up the scenario. Start by describing the scene in vivid detail.

For example, if your client has a fantasy about sex in a car, you could start by describing the feel of smooth leather brushing against your bare thighs, the intoxicating scent of his aftershave (or her perfume) that makes you weak/hard/wet, and the sound of the smooth, sexy voice of Marvin Gaye urging you to “Get it On” as you slide a hand across the center console and begin to slowly stroke his/her leg.

DESCRIBE! DESCRIBE! DESCRIBE! The beauty of phone sex is that reality doesn’t come into play. You can describe yourself wearing whatever clothing you want (from a push-up bra with thigh-high stockings and heels to a silky black dress with nothing underneath to full biker gear), you can have sex anywhere it turns you on without consequences (in the back seat of a car or in a public restroom), and you can even defy gravity if it makes the fantasy hotter! Your job is to take the client’s desires and express them in words that make the experience pleasurable.

Encourage your client to describe the scene from their perspective, but don’t freak out if what they say isn’t something you find sexually arousing. This is where you need to keep in mind that you are a paid professional, not a real life partner. Your job is to fuel your client’s sexual fantasy, not mock it or be judgmental about what turns them on. If you do encounter things that you don’t know how to respond to, let the client take the lead or use your descriptive skills to take the fantasy in another direction

Pleasure

As you move into the more sexual part of the call remember that the client wants to hear you describe what you’re doing (or what you imagine them doing).

BE GRAPHIC, but know your audience. The best operators know which descriptive words best fit the scenario they’re building and they use them to increase the client’s arousal. Some clients want “down and dirty” sex, so words like grab, thrust, shove, and pound will really turn them on. Others may want something more seductive, so words like slide, slip, glide or stroke will be sure-fire turn-ons.

TALK DIRTY! This is not the time to be shy, folks! Listen to your client and then follow their lead. If a male client talks about how he wants to “pound your dirty little pussy with his rock hard cock” you should be using words like pussy, cunt, snatch, fuck hole, cock and dick. If he talks about wanting to “slide his shaft into your tight wet hole” then you may want to use words like slit, rod, and tool. Combined with descriptive adjectives like slippery, slick, hot, sizzling, tight, aching, wet, pulsing, taut, stretched, stiff, firm, tensed, rigid, strong, and forceful, you can build a scene that leads to a powerful climax.

Phrases you can use to increase arousal:

  • "I want to fuck you so bad right now"
  • "I'm so wet, baby"
  • "This feels so good"
  • "I love to taste your cum"
  • "I want your huge cock in my tight/hot/wet little pussy/mouth"
  • "Make me scream!"
  • "I need you"
  • "I want you"
  • "I want to make you sweat"
  • "You're making me so hot"
  • "I want to feel your fingers squeezing/lips sucking my nipples"
  • "I love the feeling of your hard cock in my hand"
  • "I want to feel your cock fucking my mouth"
  • "Tell me how you want me to touch you"



DIRECT THE ACTION! Don’t be afraid to take charge and tell your client what you want them to do. You can describe what you’re doing to yourself, what you want them to do to you or what you want them to do to themselves!

  • For example, if your client is male, once you know you have him good and worked up, tell him you want him to stroke himself for you. Depending on the direction you want to go, you could have him “use that hot wet tongue to lick your palm the way you’d lick my pussy” and then moan a little as you tell him to use his slick hand to reach down and stroke his cock. You could also have him play with his nipples, stroke his balls and/or ass, depending on what his fantasies are.
  • If your client is female, you can describe how you want her to play with her to “twist her nipples until you can feel it in your clit” and then describe how you want her to run her hands down her body and slide them between her legs and stroke her clit.



Taking control of the scene through descriptive action is a great way to push the client towards a climax.

Climax

Often a client will hang up as soon as he has achieved the objective of the call, so you want to make sure that you invite him to call again before he ejaculates. As you move him toward the finish, you can say something like:

Oh John, I’m so glad you called. I’ve been waiting to talk to a real man all day, and you have made me feel so good. Don’t you dare hang up! I want to spend every last moment we have together. Remember, my name is [Name] and I’m online every [fill in days and times]. I can’t wait to talk to you again, John. Every time the phone rings, I’ll be thinking of you.”

As your client moves closer to climaxing, you will most likely be the only one talking. Enthusiastically encourage him to finish by telling him how good he feels, how good you feel and how you want him to finish. Interspersing moans and sighs in your pleas (or orders) will quickly push your client over the edge.

Phrases you can use to bring them to climax:

  • That’s it, baby!
  • Fuck me!
  • Fuck/pound/drill me harder! Or I need to fuck/pound/drill you harder!
  • Cum for me, baby!
  • Cum in my mouth/pussy/on my tits! Or Let me cum in your mouth/pussy/on your tits!
  • I’m cumming!

Afterglow

Sometimes your client will climax and want to keep talking. If you need to move on to your next client, there are some graceful ways to wrap up the call that will leave them wanting to call you again. Remind them how good they have made you feel, and then

Things to say to wrap up the call and make them want to call again:

  • I love the way you make me feel, when will you be able to make me feel this way again?
  • I am already excited thinking about our next time, when will we speak again?
  • Don't make me wait too long before I hear from you again, you're my kind of man/woman.
  • The next time my phone rings, I want it to be you on the other end of the line.
  • When the call is over, I will be thinking about the next time we’ll talk.
  • When will my favorite guy/girl be calling again?



Remind them of your name and the times you are available, and then end the call in a way that tells them you’re already thinking of the next time they’ll call.

Playing it Safe

Every job has risks and this job is no exception. While you may discuss very intimate things with your clients, it is important to remember that you do not know the person on the other end of the phone line. Play it safe and follow a few simple rules.

Never give clients your personal information. Do not give anyone your name, phone number or address, and be wary of clients who ask for your personal information. This means you need to pay attention to questions that clients ask so you don’t give them information that would allow them to locate or contact you.

Avoid using drugs and/or alcohol while you are taking calls. They lower your inhibitions and cloud your judgment.

Never agree to meet a client in person. This is a job, not a dating service, so treat it as such and keep things professional.